How I Met My Husband, The First Time

I believe there is a right time and a right place. Which means there is also a wrong time and a wrong place. Maybe everyone I met before May of 2008 was just wrong time. Or maybe everyone I met while living in Nebraska was just wrong place. But I know May 2008, in Anniston Alabama, was right time and right place, because nothing else before that worked.

My husband and I met while both working at a summer camp position that involved traveling across the country. If there’s anything less like real life than a job which required a different hotel every week for us to meet in, I’m not sure what it would be. Either way with no real cleaning, laundry or cooking to speak of we were in a bit of a fantasy land, however we somehow make real life work too. Those hotels, airplanes, rental cars, and beautiful scenery, was all the right places.

But before that time, we had a wrong time. We met at a competition where I was an athlete and he was a judge (that’s what we get for having an age difference.) I was standing in this long line to challenge the outcome of my match. Holding my scorecard I was waiting to get to the front of the line and learn if I could edge out a few more points and possible earn myself a spot on the podium. Since the line was so long, someone in charge told J to go down the line and see if he thought the people would get their extra points or not. Making quick work, he got to me and told me no, I should not in fact be wasting my time in line because I wasn’t going to get the extra points.

Although I’m normally pretty quiet and respectful I told him I wasn’t going to get out of line, and probably something about how I had every right to stand there (since I was, like, 15 and very genius at this time). Nothing else was said, and J left me to continue down the line, but all I was thinking was he was such an asshole.

“Secret Toys”

I don’t randomly find many reminders of Nebraska, so when I do, they make me cry.

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I found this box in our attic when we moved. Now it’s full of Christmas decorations, but I can just imagine this box used to sit in my moms closet above the stairs, back in the top rack where Nathan and I couldn’t reach or see. Even as an adult who doesn’t live there anymore I still feel strange going into that area of the closet because I know it’s where presents are stored, and if you saw presents before Christmas there was no surprise. Neither Nathan or I ever hunted for presents around the house. We didn’t try and find where they were stashed or carefully unwrap them to see what we were getting before Christmas morning. We knew exactly where they were. We didn’t look because we wanted opening them on Christmas morning to be special.

My mom probably filled this box throughout the year. Finding toys that she thought we would like and hiding them until she felt like treating us. Seeing this box just reminds me of what a loving mother I have, who spoiled both of us rotten.

A path of pets

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There’s like a bajillion things that make our new house better than the old house. But one of the things I did like was the path of pets I knew on the drive home. There was the orange cat that sat on the front porch, the house with 4 calico’s and the house (that used to have nice bushes) with a black cat. My happiness feels directly related to the viewing (or petting) of animals. So far the new drive only includes 1 cat I see about 40% of the time in the window and the dogs that chase my car, which I do not count as a positive.

 

Rainy Day

I decided to make a rainy day craft this afternoon. However I’m not the best at remembering to take a before picture.

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I painted half the frame and then remembered about the picture. So basically I had this green framed garlic picture. The previous owners of the little house left it, and its been sitting in a corner ever since. So I decided to paint it with some $1 mistint paint and use my Cricut to put a prettier picture inside it. I also got to use my new sticker maker to place the numbers, which worked so well!

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I’m so excited to start decorating the new house and I think this picture will be a great addition!

November 8th, 2011

About 2 years ago, I ventured into something that I’m sure most people experience more than once in their life, (so I guess I should be grateful I only had endure a singular short period), a minimum wage job. The good ol’ days of my unemployment had to end sometime, and that sometime was the holiday season of 2011. It happened while I was out doing one of my typical shopping trips during the day, a very well planned loop through the outdoor ‘mall’ that we have that ended with a stop at TJ Maxx. Because it was getting close to the holidays there was a table at the front door with employment applications. As I’d already failed at finding any other job; I took one, applied, interviewed, did more clothes shopping, and ta-da I was at my first minimum wage job.

I had originally applied to work in the warehouse because those hours were from 7 to 10, and I was hoping to be on a similar schedule to J, but I guess showing up to the interview in a dress and heels made them think I was overly ambitious, and I got a job at the jewelry counter. Working in jewelry wasn’t all that bad. My favorite part was when a new box of inventory would come in and I’d get to go through all the new items. Or maybe my favorite part was marking things down for clearance and getting to be the first to see how cheap everything was going to be. Either way there were a lot of bad parts that I didn’t like. For example the late hours and standing on my feet all day (I nearly passed out on my first day. Seriously, green in the face. The woman that was training me bought me one of our overpriced water bottles to keep me from dying.)

What else sucked was that the jewelry department wasn’t actually just the jewelry counter. It also encompassed purses, hair supplies, lotions, shoes, and women’s intimates. Every day that I had to walk up and down the shoe aisles trying to match up random shoes, or trying to make them fit onto the little shelves, I hated my life a little more. As I was crawling around on my knees trying to find if the other blue flat that had disappeared under a shelf all I could think was “$25,000 in student loans… college degree…. and I’m matching shoes.”

I learned a lot about retail during that time (since I knew zip before), like how to set up displays. The first display I did had some jewelry stands and hats in it. They loved it. Went crazy for it. Told me how amazing it was. Me, being overly filled with self confidence, was beaming at how I was owning this retail thing. The next display I did involved some sets of pajamas. I basically just needed to stack them up against the wall. Done, easy, I mean I’m the master of jewelry stands. That’s when I learned about this totally ridiculous rule of retail; color organizing. Now I like organization above most things, but the system of retail color organization was so completely arbitrary to me I struggled with it. There was a specific rainbow order, that was not ROYGBIV, that had to be followed. But did it go down the rack or across the rows? How did patterns factor in? If you went around a table did you follow the same rules? The questions were endless and their answers were unsatisfactory.

I quit 2 months later. Normally when I think back to this time I assume it was closer to 3 or 4 months, but really, I quit in the beginning on January when I started my (current) “real-life” job. The torture of shoes, retail rainbows, and having to work for 3 weeks to even afford the cheap jewelry we were selling, seems to have stretched out those 2 months into an extensive period of torturous time.

I then got the ‘real’ job, worked 2 weeks and made more money than I did the whole 2 months in retail. I’m not saying money is happiness. But when you’re making twice as much and you’re not possibly passing out from standing all day, then yes, that money is happiness.